woensdag 10 juli 2013

The impact "they" have

It's been quite a while since I have written something and actually posted it for the "world" to read. I guess my mind was never really at peace nor did I feel centered in a long time. Some times it's funny how a family member, a friend, an acquaintance, a complete stranger or even a kid can have an impact on your life. These people can either have a positive or negative impact on your life... but I always say that it is never the second but the first. Because a lesson is never anything negative but it is something that only built you up and forms you.

In life I made mistakes. Some of them I am not so proud of. Some I did even though I had enough time to think it trough and so on. But I do know that they are mine and I own them. 

Getting closure is overrated because I guess there is no such thing. There are always another 'why's' and more 'ifs'. In the past I met some amazing people who I go to, if I feel a little lost... these people never tell me what I want to hear. Instead they tell me what I don't want to hear and what they know I want to do instead. 

Surprisingly someone who I never thought of meeting, I met. It might have been faith or not. Maybe it was or os meant to be or not. But sometimes there is just this "something" which you cannot explain. I guess some times people just cross your path for various reasons. 

And even though I knew it myself, this stranger made me realize even more that in life you have to accept the fact that you cannot change certain things and people, regardless of how much you care. There is nothing wrong with wishing the best for somebody, but sometimes you have to realize that keeping them close to you is not always the best thing to do for you. There won't be no hard feelings. It's just life. And there is no point in wasting your time or someone else's.

This is a "concept" that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that does not mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

I thought I didn't like romance as much as I thought but I love the feeling of being in love. And everything else that comes with it. And yes, I am someone that is looking for love. Real love. The ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, cannot live without each other love. 

And as much as you may think you want something you just know when something is not right. It's never what the mind is thinking but it's always what the heart is feeling. 

'If it feels right, do not question it, love with all your heart, do not think too much... but do cherish the feeling and keep it and of course try not to let go! Because maybe you may lost the best thing that ever happened to you without realizing it because you were too busy counting the stars that you missed the moon.'

donderdag 14 februari 2013

It is madness, says reason
It is what it is, says love
It is unhappiness, says caution
It is nothing but pain, says fear
It has no future, says insight
It is what it is, says love
It is ridiculous, says pride
It is foolish, says caution
It is impossible, says experience
It is what it is, say love

- Enrich Fried

zaterdag 19 januari 2013

Changes and Chances

Sometimes in order to want to be old and wise, you first have to be young and stupid. Simply just live a little... without trying to over think. And ofcourse the worst choice anyone can ever make is basically not making a choice at all.

As we grow older we become wiser. And ofcourse as some grow older they basically hit a mid life crisis. And no, there is nothing to do about that.

As we live day by day... we meet people along the way. Some will add value to your life and ofcourse some won't. Either way, both crossed your path. Some of those people you will only see just once or twice. It's basically what we allow and what we want. You either allow them to secretly be a part of your life or you don't. It's always your own choice.

Sometimes you cannot help yourself but think... Think about what tomorrow will bring. Some of us have everything planned or let's say sort of. But ofcourse... you cannot help but think where you might be a year from now even though you think you know where you will be. Or suddenly realize that a year has almost passed.

To be honest, no one knows where they will be, especially if the future is involved. You can basically know what you want and make that it will become your future or atleast part of it. But planning where you will be? Never. Because why should we make the sky our limit if we basically have the entire universe, so to speak.

Changes... Chances... what are those? Is it merley something that we have under control? Is it something that just happens? Or is it a choice we make? 

Everyone simply has his/ hers own meaning. But it's simply the cause to be different. Changes can have a different impact on one another but everybody learns to cope with it in a different way. We cannot help to sometimes worry about the hard times we have in life, but... try not to worry! Even though it is always easier said than done. But sometimes the most beautiful things we have in our life come from the changes or maybe even the chances we either let happen or even if the changes just happend without us wanting too. Sometimes we just have to accept the past, try manage the present since we are already in it, and work hard towards the future no matter what it will bring. Because nothing is worst than giving up before even trying. 

And like my dad always used to say: 'If you give your best in wanting to achieve something and it didn't go as you wanted or hoped. It's oke, because as long as you gave it your best,  more than that you can never give.'

So basically sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, try not to wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breath and have faith that everything will work out for the best. 

But keep in mind that if somethings makes you smile, cherish them. If they make you happy, keep them. If it feels good even though you do not have an explanation, hold on to them and try not to let go. Just always take chances and allow changes to happen.