Follow your heart...
In a village, two monks come across a young 17yr. old girl with a long kimono
trying to cross a very muddy road but she is not daring to step into the mud.
So one monk picks her up and carries her across the road through the mud and
puts her down. And so the monks walk on in silence for another 4 - 5 hours. Just
practising noble silence. And then after 4 - 5 hours when they are
getting close to their destination, one monk says to the monk that picked up
the girl: 'oh you know, you should not have done that because we monks are not
supposed to even touch a woman. So you weren't even supposed to pick up that
girl. You're not supposed to do that.' And the other monk says: 'Oh, are you
still carrying that girl? I put her down hours ago.' So the other monk was
still carrying that girl and the event in his head. So for four hours, he was
walking with this burden.
This shows the reluctance of the human mind to let go of the past. The truth is, no human being is easy to deal with or please all the time. At times in life you will encounter those people who will constantly judge what you do and who you are. Sometimes it might never be good enough for them because that is not how it "supposed" to be. Do not take it personally though. If we sometimes cannot see ourselves clearly, how are we supposed to see others that same exact way? Until someone heals from something or someone that has wronged them they will continue to find fault with everything and have every reason to be upset.
We all have our vices, attitudes and way of doing things that make us who we are. Fact is that you won't like everything about somebody, it is impossible! This is life. But the question is: What are you willing to do about it?
We all have our vices, attitudes and way of doing things that make us who we are. Fact is that you won't like everything about somebody, it is impossible! This is life. But the question is: What are you willing to do about it?
Life is definitely no fairy tale, but it is about what you are willing to work for, with someone who is willing to work with you. With any relationship that you encounter in your life always find someone who has a heart for you and when you do find them, never stop fighting for them.
'So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality.' - Jim Carrey
For
many forgiving means accepting what has happened to you. Well, it is
accepting that it has happened to you. Not accepting that it was OK for it to
happen. It is accepting that it has happened and now 'what do I do about it?'.
Forgiving is giving up the hope, not holding on, hoping, wishing that could
have been any other way than it actually was. Giving up the hope that the past
could be any different. And when I got that, it took me to the next level of
being a better person because I do not hold grudges for anything or any
situations and neither should you. It is letting go so that the past does not
hold you prisoner. Does not hold you hostage.
In
this time and age in this society, we are so conditioned to conform to 'society
standards'. Which discourages us from following our intuition. From following
your heart. We often take the practical road, why? Because it is safe. And
obviously less risky. But when we suppress the desire to act on divine inspiration,
we build up tension so great in our soul that we come to a point we start to
experience a lower state of emotion. Which can sometimes lead to depression,
anxiety and disappointment.
And we miss out on something we want because of what? So that we can feel "safe"? So we can have predictability? Of course, safety and predictability have their benefits.
But if your heart calls and you choose to ignore it, the consequences might far outweigh the benefits.
It might happen that you will feel scared when thinking to take the road which is unpaved or "unapproved", just start asking yourself some tough questions and be truly honest with yourself.
For me, it will be, 'shall I be more concerned on how other people view me rather than my own happiness?'
We are all human and will often think what will the effect of a long-term suppression be, versus the effect of a short-term "acceptance" by people close to us and society?
Don't confuse the voices in your head and around you. To some, it will make sense, to others it won't but just follow your heart... your brain is stupid!
And we miss out on something we want because of what? So that we can feel "safe"? So we can have predictability? Of course, safety and predictability have their benefits.
But if your heart calls and you choose to ignore it, the consequences might far outweigh the benefits.
It might happen that you will feel scared when thinking to take the road which is unpaved or "unapproved", just start asking yourself some tough questions and be truly honest with yourself.
For me, it will be, 'shall I be more concerned on how other people view me rather than my own happiness?'
We are all human and will often think what will the effect of a long-term suppression be, versus the effect of a short-term "acceptance" by people close to us and society?
Don't confuse the voices in your head and around you. To some, it will make sense, to others it won't but just follow your heart... your brain is stupid!
