Changes and Chances

Sometimes in order to want to be old and wise, you first have to be young and stupid. Simply just live a little... without trying to over think. And ofcourse the worst choice anyone can ever make is basically not making a choice at all.

As we grow older we become wiser. And ofcourse as some grow older they basically hit a mid life crisis. And no, there is nothing to do about that.

As we live day by day... we meet people along the way. Some will add value to your life and ofcourse some won't. Either way, both crossed your path. Some of those people you will only see just once or twice. It's basically what we allow and what we want. You either allow them to secretly be a part of your life or you don't. It's always your own choice.

Sometimes you cannot help yourself but think... Think about what tomorrow will bring. Some of us have everything planned or let's say sort of. But ofcourse... you cannot help but think where you might be a year from now even though you think you know where you will be. Or suddenly realize that a year has almost passed.

To be honest, no one knows where they will be, especially if the future is involved. You can basically know what you want and make that it will become your future or atleast part of it. But planning where you will be? Never. Because why should we make the sky our limit if we basically have the entire universe, so to speak.

Changes... Chances... what are those? Is it merley something that we have under control? Is it something that just happens? Or is it a choice we make? 

Everyone simply has his/ hers own meaning. But it's simply the cause to be different. Changes can have a different impact on one another but everybody learns to cope with it in a different way. We cannot help to sometimes worry about the hard times we have in life, but... try not to worry! Even though it is always easier said than done. But sometimes the most beautiful things we have in our life come from the changes or maybe even the chances we either let happen or even if the changes just happend without us wanting too. Sometimes we just have to accept the past, try manage the present since we are already in it, and work hard towards the future no matter what it will bring. Because nothing is worst than giving up before even trying. 

And like my dad always used to say: 'If you give your best in wanting to achieve something and it didn't go as you wanted or hoped. It's oke, because as long as you gave it your best,  more than that you can never give.'

So basically sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, try not to wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breath and have faith that everything will work out for the best. 

But keep in mind that if somethings makes you smile, cherish them. If they make you happy, keep them. If it feels good even though you do not have an explanation, hold on to them and try not to let go. Just always take chances and allow changes to happen.

'Sometimes, we come into a person's life 

not to make them love us but to make them feel that there is so much worth loving for.'

- Profound

'Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had. Because in the end, what we sometimes regret most are the chances we NEVER took.'

by. G. C.

Differences

Differences? What is that? Basically something that every single one of us can give an example of. A 5 years old all the way to a 70 year old person. Basically a difference between something or someone is that what is not similar at all; it does not look-a-like, it does not think alike and so on.

Some people like differences, some people don't. And ofcourse that's another difference. For some people a difference between things like objects and mostly people can become a boundry. But for me... I see it as a lesson that I get to learn almost every day.

I grew up with differences. I grew up not to look at someone and start judging because we do not look alike but instead I learned to respect it. I don't start judging nor do I become scared if there is a difference in thinking... doing... handling... I just become more curious. And if I do not feel forced, I will make it work.

Life would basically be quit boring if we would be all similar. I like that I have family members whom I can look at and see the similarities. Ofcourse we have some things in common... but I love it even more because we are still so different. The same with friends. Ofcourse you always have something in common' but what if we'd would all think alike, look-a-like and just know what would happen just before it did would basically make my life boring. I do not know about yours. 

And falling for someone you know completely nothing about? It's 'same same but different'. Because you have a rapid beating of the heart. The rapid beating is not... and really it's not about a difference in culture or any of that difference bullsh*t people talk about. It is something that you do not know how to explain but it's just there. Or actually you do know... but you just do not feel like explaining at the moment. You give half  because to give all might be too much. You pull back because pushing might end up wrong. One day you have control over everything and the other day you just loose it. Ofcourse you sould never think or even start thinking negative about something that is making you happy or even have doubts. Just let it go... Eventhough it might be scary...  Give in because it feels good and honest... And being scrared is oke.

I like being surrounded by differences. Because what I may not see and may not understand the other might clearify for me or just makes me understand it better. Some say in life, you always need to have this 'difference' between people. Some say that difference can become an obsticle. Others say difference can become something beautiful etc. 

Normally or depending on what it is, I can say depending on what people say about something or someone... it can usually make me think. In this case something like this does. Difference does mean something to me in a positive aspect but not a negative one. I choose not be negative about it. Because when I look around me? All I see is difference.

Hey... I just met you! =)

Bittersweet

I think everyone has at least one time in their life where they had experienced that bittersweet feeling. I always heard people talking about it but I never experienced it nor understood it very well, until now.

That feeling is amazing but "killing" at the same time. 

How can you tell someone exactly what you want but at the same time you can't? How can someone be so close but yet so far? How come that person brings out your weakest and your strongest points at the same time? How can that person bring out that creative part of yours, the one you thought you'd lost? How come someone cannot see what you're seeing?

For all of the above, there are reasons. And it doestn't matter what those reasons are, you still see yourself there next to that person because your reasons are endless. Some you understand and you have an explenation for. And for some you don't.

It's just like a river that can be as deep as 12ft. or deeper. You just do not know what's in it unless you will make it across. But because it's so deep you can either find a way to do it yourself or grab someones hand and let them help you. And the only way of doing that is by giving in... by taking... and maybe by slowly letting go... And then you can ask yourself: 'How good can this get?'

Knowing what you want in life and what you don't, usually makes it easier to speak your mind. But what if you reached that point where you thought you would never be? That point where you know exactly what you want and your mind is screaming for the words to come out but they just won't.

Is it fear? Is it... yea... I don't even know what it is myself. You find that feeling of trust, comfort, relaxation, honesty etc. just in one person. Something I find rare as weird as I made it sound. Every now and then you meet people that cross your path. Some stay longer than others and some just come and go. Some will add value to your life and some won't.

No one knows what the future brings but you can always decide what you want and who you let in. Talking about 'your' future and wanting someone to be a part of it may sound like it's something big and complicated. But it's not. We are just human and we make things as complicated as we want them to be. But if the balance is there and the harmony within yourself is present it should be oke.

It might be the fear of loosing someone or that specific person that can make one another silent. Or maybe it just might be the feeling where you tell yourself it's oke as long as you have what you have now. 

Not telling the person what you really want, isn't called a lie or hidding a big secret that may end up ruining something. Maybe you're just waiting for that person to pick themselves up from what they've been through and open their eyes and just let them see what will happen next. Even though the fear by looking and the fear of hearing maybe there because you can always loose that person to someone else because of your silence.

Some will tell you: 

Be straight forward and say it.

Find that perfect moment and timing.

It's always easier said than done. Because you know so much and at the same time so little about the person. Be straight forward? well sometimes you just have to be. Find that perfect moment and timing? Ofcourse there are always a million perfect moments and timings. But I don't think it's only about being straight forward or the perfect moment or timing. It's about how you feel! If you feel like saying it without hesitating or wanting to think about it too much? Well... then that's that.

As long as you're always telling the truth and most of all it should come from the heart. And ofcourse... you can always be head over heels but you always have a good head on your shoulders and think.

So... should I tell you or should I not?

Should wait and see what happens or shouldn't I waste my time waiting? Or should I just ask you?

Tell me...